True love and marriage

 GMarriage is not about having a handsome husband or having a beautiful wife. It is not about looking for a perfect because there is not perfect person on earth.


It is not about looking for a well off or rich person. Money cannot buy love. A successful marriage is finding someone who respects you, who cares about you, who understands you, who is proud of having you, who loves the way you are, who is faithful to you, and who knows how to comfort you. It's not a new thing that society has single moms. Unfortunately, we have chosen to rip ourselves off of all the mercy Islam has to offer. From polygamy to single moms marrying single dads to simply not delaying marriage, Islamic history shows all the examples of how to solve these problems. 


Polygamy answers a lot of the problems for our society. Alongside polygamy, I need to emphasize simple living. For many, polygamy has become unimaginable because they believe a big house, big schools, branded clothes are "necessity." Many sisters need someone to provide for them because they have no means to provide for themselves and their kids. Many sisters need a partner because they are falling into sins. Maybe we need to be more creative in how each marriage dynamic looks, but we must encourage polygamy. Some brothers may become better husbands if they get to experience more women.


As a woman I have to say, it's sad that most of our women want men who would be willing to accept and raise their children but they don't want to deal with the man's children. In some way, men are contributing to the problem too by showing sisters that she would always be after his children for him - but isn't that how most of us single moms act too? Just something to self reflect upon. Sawdah bint Zamah (ra) was a widow with 1 kid who married our Prophet (pbuh) who had 4 daughters.


Delaying the nikah is one of the biggest fitnahs if you ask me. Everyone wants to take their sweet time and, in the process, stumble upon various haram activities. Many people are living under fear. Fear of relationship not working out. We need to instill more tawakul and realize that at the end, you can't know someone fully until you live with them. Do your basic questioning, see if families work out, and get nikah done. If it's meant to last, no matter how little time u spent to know each other before nikah, it would last. If it's not meant to last, no matter how much time u spent to know each other, it wouldn't last. We need to stop trying to control our Qadar. Many issues simply seem to be rooted in fear, lack of tawakul, and desire to control everything. 


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