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Society’s Expectations of Women, and Their Experiences in the World  

    People really need to look deeper into themselves and the world to discover the true meaning life and society. Society has many different layers and your perception of the world changes as you find the true meaning as you peel away the layers like an onion.

  People know that it is wrong to judge a book by its cover, but people always do it anyway.  Why is that? There is a saying which I believe that says “True beauty is only skin deep.”Therefore  if true beauty is only skin deep was truly really the case, in our society, then why is it that an individual’s  appearance is the first thing that people in our society will judge about individuals when we first meet them without  getting to know the personalities of the individuals . People need to acknowledge the fact that the appearance of individuals does not really matter, we are all the same human beings the only thing that matters is the personality of the individuals. In addition, society knows that the act of judging people on a basics of race, sexuality, gender, hobbies, and habitats is known as discrimination and prejudice; people still tend to judge a person appearance.   Even though, they know it is morally wrong to judge someone, but they do it anyway why.   This  is because  from the time we are  in our mother’s womb there  is a set of many guidelines,  rules expectations, images on how a person  is supposed to look like, act, interact with other people  that every individual in society is trained to follow and obey.  These guidelines,  rules expectations are based  on an individual’s gender, race,  social class sexuality they are put in place in our society  so people can be successful.  

  As soon as they learn to walk, children are socialized   differently based on their gender. Boys learn to play with action figures like G I Joe army toys and play with Legos.  Society teaches boys to be strong, join the military, be good at math, build buildings, be engineers, and providers for women in society.  On the other hand , young girls are trained by society and their parents to play with dolls, make up, easy bake ovens and later on in school   girls learn that parents only want their sons to do better in math so as a result girl’s attention in math decreases because they have internalized the message from their parents that girls are normally  not supposed to do better in math than boys in society. In addition society teaches young girls to be nurturing, to cook, clean, and do laundry so they can learn to be good mothers and take care of children, while the men are only the providers in society. 

These expectations of women are realistic/and unrealistic for many reasons. First of all, it is very realistic for society to want and need caregivers, nannies, mothers to watch over, nurture, care for and raise children in society.  However, there are no rules, or laws in society that segregates the care giving, and raising children is specifically the responsibility of only the women of society. Aside from the obvious biological factor of a woman’s birth to children, men are perfectly capable of raising and nurturing their children.    

In fact, in recent years more and more men are staying home to care for their children either because more men are unemployed or they have responsibility for the kids, while the wife or mothers are working all day.   In addition men are allowed to have a two week paternity leave to spend time with their new baby and they still can go back to work without any consequences. While in contrast to men young women who take a maternity leave for twelve weeks might not have a job when they come back from     maternity leave even though by law an employer is not allowed to fire a woman just for having a baby. Women who have a baby and return to work have a stigma attached to them for having a baby because employers and coworkers think that women cannot perform their job the way that they did before having the baby and sometimes women are fired from their job for taking extra time on maternity leave.   Society has so many different double standards for men and women. For example if a father stays home to take care of his children while the mother is out working , society will look down on men who stay home with the children because he is too nurturing and he is not considered manly enough. Also if society expects women not to get an education, not a degree, not work and stay home taking care of the  children and the house how are they going to pay bills . Society needs to understand that in order for women to raise their children and be good mothers all women need to have equal access to good education to get a degree and find a job with a good income to pay for a big house, school so women can afford to buy food, clothes, and afford to pay for day-care for their children, while they are out working all day.    Society expects boys to play with trucks. If parents see their son playing with dolls they might think he is gay and hit him and takes the doll away from him. If a girl plays any sport she is labeled as a tomboy. If men work at Victoria’s Secret, Bath and Body Works, they are automatically labeled as a gay person in society. If men work as designers hair dressers, or they do nails they are seen as gay people in society just for doing what they love.  This is unfair. People should not be judge differently because of what They like people should be free to do what they want and be the person that they want to be in life just like baby x was free to be his own person.  

 During 1912   there were many  American people and government  was involved in many social political and economic movements  such as the start of European Colonization , the progressive era.  In addition in 1912 the economy was doing well two years before World War I.   People (men) had all the jobs. They worked while the women stayed home to take care of children.  At the time our society was very patriarchal. Women did not have the right to vote, they were just supposed to listen and obey their husbands.  Women had few rights and no individual freedom in 1912. At the time all a rich upper class woman could do was get married while a poor woman was seen as cheap labor in factories. There were strong distinctions between the upper and lower classes in 1912, the ruling classes saw people in power so no need to change the status quo. (Weirder, pg 1). In 1912 women were not seen as equals to men, they were viewed as inferior to men because of their sex. Men saw women as toys to play with, not as human beings. They felt could do anything they want with women because women were powerless.

In the l9 and 20th century gender roles of men and women in society were very different compared to the roles in society today. For example, in 1912, women were only considered as the homemakers. They cooked cleaned and took care of the children while the workforce was dominated by men. In addition young women were forced to marry older men as early as sixteen years old for money.  Women were not allowed to get an education and they did not have the right to vote until 1920 with the 19th amendment. Unfortunately women did not get the right vote more than a century after African American men got the right to vote in 1865.  In 1912 and even today women are denied many rights along with job opportunities not for being unqualified for their jobs, but   they are being denied jobs on a base of race, gender discrimination, and prejudice. Over the last few decades especially now gender roles have reversed in society.   For example now men and women both have jobs in order to pay bills and maintain a house and survive with children because the economy is so bad. Now more men are staying home to take care of the children because they cannot find work, while women work.   Women in society today have many roles. They are professional women and care givers. Women have gained many rights they are educated and now women have become more involved in politics.  

In conclusion,   there are many expectations of men and women in society.  Our society hierarchy and capitalistic system has so many rules to follow in order to be successful.  . People know that it is wrong to judge a book by its cover, but people always do it anyway. Why is that?   If true beauty is only skin deep was truly really the case, in our society, then why is It that an individual’s  appearance is the first thing that people in our society will judge about individuals when we first meet them without  getting to know the personalities of the individuals Society knows that the act of judging people on a basics of race, sexuality, gender,  hobbies, and habitats is known as discrimination and prejudice. From the time we are born there is a set of many guidelines, rules expectations, and  images on how a person is supposed to look like, act, and interact with other people that every individual in society is trained to follow and obey.  These guidelines, and rules expectations are based on an individual’s gender, race, and social class sexuality they are put In place in our society so  people can be successful. The expectations of society put so much pressure on individuals to be self-conscious and way too much about what people think about you that I do not have any confidence in my own person.  These expectations of society are what make humans very judgmental people. These expectations of society make it seem as If and the media make people believe that the only way to be successful in our society and to meet the acceptable  social expectations of our hierarchy is to be a white, straight middle or upper-class or working class men only. Therefore, the standard margin of error of our social expectations in our social hierarchy is extremely, rigid and narrow  that the system of capitalism does not permit the same white, upper-, class, middle-class, or working-class women who is educated and equally capable in every way possible to the same man to be successful in our society. Also the  expectations of society make it almost impossible for anyone who is not of straight white, Christian race, to be successful.   This means that all of the 95 % of people of all different races from around the world ; people who are Hispanic, Latino, Asians, African-Americans, gay, lesbians, transgender,  and disabled people are not allowed to be successful in the society we live in. This is unfair and limited to the majority of people because of society’s expectations. These are the reasons why I  wish everyone in society can be raised like x from the fabulous child because nobody knew if he was a boy or a girl so as a result x was free from the pressures and expectations that everyone else is bound to their limits.  As a result x was exposed to everything that a boy and a girl are socialized to play with, this made X the most well adjusted, happy confident person to his environment and society. X had no expectations from people no limits. X was completely from the burdens of societal pressures we have to endure.